I’m glad I got a chance to say good-bye to you in person. Tae-kyung-ssi. Good-bye. Later on, when I’m over this, I’ll tell you that I’m OK, so you won’t have to suffer anymore.
Women Lovefest Day #5 | Go Mi-nyeo.
Saying good-bye to a loved one, and to do so knowing full well you may never again see them, is no simple thing. For Mi-nyeo and for Tae-kyung, the cut is not a clean one, but it is one Mi-nyeo makes nonetheless. With the reason for the loss of her family—the disgrace of her father, the death of her mother, the years of loneliness with only her brother Mi-nam to share that particular pain—at last revealed, Mi-nyeo will not stay. Instead, she goes, to make peace with what she now knows and to separate, emotionally and logically, Tae-kyung from his mother.
Mi-nyeo loves Tae-kyung deeply, and perhaps at the start of the series, when she had not learned to consider her own needs as on par to those of others, she might have stayed. But she would have been miserable, reminded by his presence that Tae-kyung’s mother is why Mi-nyeo has no father, has no mother, has no family but for her brother and an aunt who gave her up. She would have tried, tried so very hard to compartmentalize her feelings, her responses, but what sacrifice would it have necessitated, when Mi-nyeo’s heart was still so raw?
Instead, she makes another sacrifice. Mi-nyeo does not stay; she goes. It isn’t a matter of how much she loves Tae-kyung. Emotions can be and often are complex, and it is possible to love someone deeply, truly, with all you have within you to love another, and to know, too, that if you stay with them, love will not be enough. With the self-awareness, the confidence, and the respect for herself she has gained, Mi-nyeo recognizes what it means for her, that when she looks at Tae-kyung she sees Hwa-ran, and she recognizes, too, that what she needs is distance.
So, she goes, and Tae-kyung does not hold her back.